When Self-Care Feels Like a Chore: 5 Simple Shifts That Actually Work

We all know self-care is important. We see it everywhere—on social media, in magazines, even in casual conversation. But if you’ve ever rolled your eyes at the idea of taking a bubble bath to cure burnout, you’re not alone.



At Creative Counseling Center, we meet clients who feel overwhelmed by even the thought of “doing one more thing”, even if that thing is supposed to help. If self-care feels like another item on your to-do list, it might be time to redefine what it means for you.

 

Here are five small shifts to make self-care feel more authentic and doable:

 

1.    Start with permission, not perfection.
Self-care doesn’t need to be a perfectly planned spa day. Sometimes, it’s giving yourself permission to take a deep breath, say “no,” or ask for help.

2.    Reframe “me time.”
It doesn’t have to mean being alone. Maybe it’s turning off notifications, spending time with someone who brings you peace, or simply choosing silence over stimulation.

3.    Micro-moments matter.
Think in minutes, not hours. Sip your coffee slowly. Step outside and feel the sun. Listen to your favorite song with your full attention.

4.    Forget the trends.
Self-care isn’t what’s trending on TikTok - it’s what genuinely helps you feel grounded. For some, that’s journaling. For others, it’s watering plants or walking the dog.

5.    Check in with yourself.
Ask, “What do I need right now?” The answer might surprise you, and that’s okay. Let that guide your next step.

Quieting the noise will allow peace and clarity to move in.

 

Real self-care is not about indulgence - it’s about honoring your needs in the moment. If you’re struggling to connect with what those needs are, therapy can help. Together, we can quiet the noise and focus on what brings you clarity and peace.

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