Helen's Blog

How can anyone love you if you don’t love yourself first? It is trite, it is a cliché, and it is annoying when someone says it to you. If someone you respect and trust says this to you, take pause and listen to what they have to say. They have made this statement for a reason. Thoughts are real. Thoughts are things. What we think about ourselves comes across to others without us realizing it. Another oft quoted phrase, as a man thinks, so is he. That is why it is important to take a personal inventory one’s feelings before setting out to accomplish tasks, achieve goals or start a relationship. When we don’t love ourselves, it is an indicator of low self-esteem. When our self-esteem is low, we don’t care for ourselves properly, we don’t interact with others in a confident manner, we allow others to mistreat us. We enter a downward, negative spiral and get so low, we don’t know how to recover.

When you meet that person and then they become your person, it is such a wonderful experience. The honeymoon period is filled with moments of excitement, romance, and bliss. The newness of everything can be quite intoxicating and all-encompassing. As your relationship develops, you continue to share more, trust more and your connection deepens. Before you know it, you and your person are like two peas in a blissful pod. There is nothing wrong with this and quite natural and necessary for relationships to blossom into sustainable, healthy relationships.

Writing to heal pain, putting your feelings on paper, helps you overcome obstacles, face challenges, solve problems and even repair and heal relationships. It enables you to move past your problems and get on with your life.